(I feel the need to warn you that this is a weird post. In fact, you should probably just go read about shoes and true love and procrastination instead.)
So... What do you want to do with your life?
I hate this question.
It makes me panicky, and queasy, and
I DON'T WANT TO PLAY THIS GAME.
I'm not sure.
I don't know.
And don't tell me that "nobody knows".
I've spent the past two years asking people about
what they want,
observing people when they
speak to me about their lives,
to what people say when they talk about
what they love and
where they want to
And the vast majority of them know. Or at least have an idea.
They have a clue.
They may not know how to get there, or have all of the specifics figured out, but the majority have a direction to go.
(I'm aware that, sadly, many of them will never get where they want to go.)
I have no direction.
I have no clue.
I am blank.
Yes, I know that I'm not
But this isn't about everybody else. Saying "but Ally, nobody knows" doesn't make me feel any better. That's like telling somebody who's just had a really painful root canal, "tons of people have horrifying dental surgery at some point", and expecting that to make it ok.
A few weeks ago, my mom said:
At some point, you have to move forward.
You have to make a decision.
You have to be an adult...
I've spent the past two years
I've been stuck
[And probably because I'm scared. Of what? Not sure.]
Not because I'm lazy. Not because I don't care. Not because I want to stay a reckless, irresponsible kid.
(I've never been a reckless, irresponsible kid.)
Now, finally, I'm starting to move forward. I'm starting to push outside of my
And I'm trying to answer those scary questions. The WHATs and WHENs and WHEREs and WHYs that make my tummy hurt.
I'm trying not to run away from them.
I'm trying to let those scary questions, those
GROWN UP BIG GIRL decisions,
sit on my plate for awhile.
I'm not throwing them away and ignoring them as soon as they come up.
Call it a quarter-life crisis if you want.
My priorities - and the people I love - are still the same.
[Those things aren't changing.]
But I suppose it's time to move forward.